anti commercialist wedding

1. prepare for the circumstances you didn't prepare for

2. give each other personal space to do your own stuff otherwise nothing will get done!

3. keep reminding oneself that it is not a "show" nor is it an opportunity to "show off" your "riches" or whatever. I started out with this mindset but later the media, magazines, Internet sites, mum, family members and friends kept drumming the idea into my head that I've to get the best, the most expensive, be the most beautiful I can be, image image image, what will people think??

I wanted to wear this simple pearl necklace that was probably RM25 but mum insisted that I HAD to get something expensive instead.

I wanted to have a simple dress but my aunt was convinced that I'd be making a HUGE mistake because expensive is BETTER! she was SOO concerned that out of her concern she decided to take me out shopping for an expensive dress.

the truth is, who'd be looking at my necklace or judging my dress? it's a celebration of our love and i want THAT to stand out more than anything else.

all this commercialism and consumerism has taken away from the real meaning of the wedding day, which is to pledge one's love for the other, as long as one lives. I imagine that many brides spend the whole day thinking "do i look perfect?? do i look fat? is my makeup alright?" instead of revelling in the romance of the moment.

Gav and I have decided to enjoy this day to the fullest, and take our time to enjoy it, in the way that we'd most enjoy it. I wont force myself into an uncomfortable, too tight gown or a tight corset or be worried about whether my hair will get messed up if people hug me. I won't wear too-high heels that i can't walk properly in. I want to be completely comfortable and completely at ease so I can move about and enjoy myself as I please. I won't be stressed out about what my guests about not serving alcohol. "how can? later people will say you're not high class" - said my dad. who cares? people are not here to criticize my dress or the food.

also, I won't let anything spoil my mood for the day. no matter what happens, nothing can take away from the most impt fact that we're celebrating, namely the fact that gavin and i love each other and we're going to declare that in front of our family and friends. so, even if any "unforeseen" circumstance occurs, we'll carry on and be happy.

p.s. this dress was made by a very talented tailor, miss kee from happy garden. it's not keith kee, but i'm perfectly happy with it.